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You are on your own path. Friends, family, and mentors can’t walk it for you. Taking this understanding let’s now talk about…

The real reason you can’t depend on your friends. Because often times it is your friends who you allow to hold you back

So that you fully understand this article. And are able to use it on your rise. I will share with you my own story.

Take from it and then apply the understanding to yourself.

Because unless you understand it. You’ll end up like all of the other broke and aimless people in this world.

Simply because having friends can make all the difference. You can be successful and lonely. Or you successful and surrounded by friends.

The choice is yours as usual.

I’ve got a friend who is my brother. He’s one of the only people who I’d take a bullet for. He and I have been through a lot.

He’s the kind of friend who will fly around the world to celebrate your birthday with you. The kind of friend who will believe in you without any proof.

He is the definition of a real friend.

He was with me when I was just getting started. When I’d stay up late channeling the vision that you now see.

But starting back in 2015 something started eating away at my soul.

I didn’t want to admit what the issue was. Even a girl that I was with called it out. Of course, you don’t always want to admit the truth.

You never do when it’s something that means something to you.

The two of us envisioned conquering the world together. We stayed up late speaking greatness into reality.

But every time a vision came nothing happened. The excitement was there. However, the action to bring that vision into reality never came.

So we’d continue dreaming up vision after vision.

I ate, slept, and even worshipped my vision. But when the opportunity came for the two of us to manifest something together.

We’d get pumped up and then nothing. Three months would go by and then we would receive another vision.

Nothing ever happened.

This continued all the way until I finally admitted the truth. While in the Everglades a great friend of mine told me a story.

A story so similar to my own that it gave me chills.

I finally saw reality for what it was. My friend while still my brother and someone I could trust.

Was not the idealized person I saw in my mind. And this is a common theme that you and I will find on our rise.

You and I share something in common. Some people call it Destiny or drive. I simply call it the flame.

You can let this flame burn your friendships or you can let it strengthen your friendships.

I let it burn most of my friendships and even my love life.

Until I finally saw the truth hidden in plain sight. My brother from another mother. Is on his own path and I am on my own.

His inner flame is guiding him towards an entirely different vision. He’s proving to himself his own truth.

And my own flame is guiding me towards something else.

It was wrong of me to believe that the two of us could share a similar vision. That we could conquer the world together with this vision.

Not everyone has the flame for the same thing. And you know what? That’s okay and shouldn’t change a thing.

Because success isn’t realistic and so you shouldn’t be either. It’s realistic to believe that you and your best friend will share a similar vision.

But it’s unrealistic to accept that you’ve got your own path. That it’s in your own hands to bring your vision into reality while still growing your friendship.

And until you understand this. You’ll destroy anything in your path thinking that it can be any other way.

You’ll push opportunities away.

You’ll strip your friendships away.

And you’ll push anything and everything that you care about away.

Until you’re left empty-handed in a mansion. You’ll gain the world while losing everything that meant anything to you.

So where do you go from here?

You can continue going left or you can go right. If you go left you’ll gain your ambitions, but you’ll be left with nothing.

You’ll have sold the only thing that you ever really had…

Your soul.

Even your own God won’t be able to look at you anymore. He’ll turn his eyes away from you in dismay.

Or you can understand this article and go right.

You’ll have a red-hot light awaken within you. And you’ll walk with a new pep in your step.

Your soul will be refreshed and your vision stronger than ever. But you’ll have to leave behind every notion of being lonely at the top.

Does this mean that it’s all fun and games? No.

You’ll still have to build your own pyramid and claim your place in life. But you will have friends around to share it with.

Don’t think that you can depend on any of them though. That’s the reason you haven’t gotten everything that you wanted yet.

You’ve got to pay the price with your own blood. Nobody else’s will satisfy the gods.

But as always it is up to you.

There is no right or wrong answer. Only you can decide what’s best for you and your reality. I’m only here to be the mediator between you and your vision.

Everything else will build upon understanding this.

About Dylan Madden

My name is Dylan Madden. I've written over 300+ articles for those who want more out of life and are interested in traveling the world. I am from US city where most people work the same old job for their entire life. Now after traveling to 18 countries. I've set up a home in Dubai where I spend my days helping freelancers build successful businesses within The Real World and on the blog Calm and Collected. Within this website you will find the motivation and action steps to make your life better.

2 comments add your comment

  1. This article helped me. This was one of the hardest years in a bit. Dealing with depression, anxiety, bad situations in general,some toxic people at work, my dad being very sick etc etc. The year is almost over. I have 2 best friends at work. The 1 I’ve known longer Imhung out with twice this year and the other only once. I really needed them this year and they were so unavailable, it made me more depressed. I went off on my own a lot. Went for a lot of walks, went to seminars at the library, read at least 40 books this year, watched my own health and wellness. Took on a lot of side jobs in addition to my main job. I even started journaling again. I am still very lonely but keeping busy has helped. The depression is still there, but I knew sitting like a lump on a log all the time won’t help. If you’re lonely, find at least one thing to keep you busy. Try something you’ve never done. Baby steps are ok. Just try. You got this. Peace and love. ♡♡

  2. Second comment woot. This blog post caught my attention due to the fact my childhood friend was supposed to come with me here. Yet here i am sitting in an apartment without him. I guess this vision really is just for me. How can someone new to all this info find other people on a similar path??!

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