People pull their hair out trying to find themselves. They search for years and only get little pieces here and there.
I know this because that used to be me. You could almost say I was the poster boy for lost people stuck trying to find themselves.
In my head I felt if I could just figure out who I was then maybe just maybe I could live the life that I wanted. For me everything I wanted was in the future. What I wanted was never in the present moment.
I seriously thought that there was a version of me out there somewhere in the Cosmos waiting to be found. Many times I’d feel down on myself and like something was wrong with me just because I couldn’t find myself.
Add to how our culture is and I became a lost soul. A lost soul endlessly searching for his place and for who he was.
This went on for many years. Actually up until around a week ago everything just clicked in my head.
I’ve known who I was for a while, but I still had this out of place feeling. Like I just didn’t belong and there was still more to find.
Then as I was riding down the highway everything clicked all at once. I realized that life isn’t about finding yourself because you’ll never “find” yourself.
Life is truly about creating yourself. Where I’m from there are only a few accepted roles to play. Instead of playing those roles I moved to the West and am being the person that I want to be.
Instead of trying to find yourself learn to just be. Focus on being the best version of you. Live and breathe the life that you want without following everyone else.
You could spend the next 40 years searching and never fully find yourself. The people who keep searching all end up with an average life and a hole in their soul.
We are conditioned to be orderly and follow the rules. In school following the rules and doing what you’re told gives you success. Not following the rules gives you failure and punishment.
The real world doesn’t work like that. If you want your life to be a certain way then you must make it happen. You must create yourself and the life that you want.
Now don’t start overthinking how to create yourself. It’s easy and if you struggle that’s a sign you’re being fake. Struggling is a sign that you are trying to force it.
Of course some things will take effort to change. All in all though creating yourself should be effortless.
For example if I tried to be a complete jerk to everyone, I’d struggle. I’m a happy go lucky person so being a complete jerk would be fake.
If I started standing my ground, I’d effortlessly change. Standing your ground while being a happy go lucky person is real. You can be a good dude and still stand your ground.
Understand the difference?
To create yourself you first have to make the decision to do so. Once you make the decision that’s it. Don’t deviate and allow yourself to start searching again.
Learn to be comfortable with just being in the moment. Clear your head and walk through your city or town without a care in the world.
Stop holding back from people. Let it all out and be yourself. The biggest challenge you will face is learning to not care what other people think about you.
That was something that plagued me for years. It wasn’t until I finally realized that 9 out of 10 people don’t give a crap about me.
This revelation came when I was shooting a video right in the middle of the city. Since it was night time I had the flash on. Nobody cared at all and few even glanced at me.
I walked away that night with such a feeling of relief. Once you realize that nobody really cares about you, that is when you’ll have freedom.
Forget about trying to find your true self because you’ll never find it. Instead create yourself and be the person that you want to be.
You’ll be happy, fulfilled, and love life when you do. Nothing will stop you and you’ll start getting what you want since you won’t be fake anymore.
There will come a point when you have to make a decision. Continue being a man of potential or turn into a man of greatness.
Tune in next time for some more…
REAL DEALIN’ With The Real Dylan