Why what I want comes first and everything else comes second

**Straight forward, No Bullshit, and Dominate.**

Why what I want comes first and everything else comes second:

I do what I want because I only have a limited time here on this earth and would much rather be doing what I want than what someone else wants to do.  Doing what another person wanted would waste my precious time.

Of course there are times where I must compromise, but I decide to compromise which is still me getting what I want.


We all live these cookie cutter lives where we conform and are essentially like everyone else around us. For people my age this is what life looks like to most:

  • Go to college
  • Work a part-time or full-time job
  • Get drunk every weekend
  • Party
  • Do drugs such as smoke weed
  • Bang girls (Nothing wrong with it if that is what you want)
  • Go around not knowing what they want to do in life
  • Get involved with meaningless drama

I don’t know about you, but that is not how I want my life to be like which is why I only do what I want to do.  My life looks like the following:

  • Workout
  • Blog
  • E-Commerce
  • Hangout with real friends and have real conversations
  • I choose to have one girlfriend who is loyal beyond question to me
  • Do Personal Development
  • Study
  • Travel when I get the desire to

-My life choices aren’t any better than yours they are simply what I choose to do. You can do whatever you want to do I am just showing you from my perspective.-

I am not at the point financially where I can just decide to go to Amsterdam for the weekend with the snap of my fingers. I have to plan it just like you guys. The only difference is if I decide I want something I make it happen because I don’t fear the unknown.

As a child growing up and into my teens I would put other people’s desires in front of mine 9 times out of 10. I thought that by me doing that I was being a good person and being humble.

Not My Picture

Not My Picture

All I can do is laugh at that old version of myself. I missed out on a lot of things simply because I was such a beta and didn’t have the balls to say what I wanted. Once I got out of High School my rose colored lenses fell off and I realized that in this world you must take what you want because everyone else is trying to get theirs.


Take what you want and do not ever be afraid of stepping on someone else to get it. There are a few rules that I follow when it comes to getting what I want.

  1. I don’t harm someone else (Unless they harm me)
  2. I have integrity
  3. I am truthful and honest
  4. I get what I want

Your friend in success,

Dylan Madden


Check out some pictures that will be on the next post:


A friend of mine and myself enjoying some breakfast going over plans for 2015.

About Dylan Madden

My name is Dylan Madden. I've written over 300+ articles for those who want more out of life and are interested in traveling the world. I am from US city where most people work the same old job for their entire life. Now after traveling to 18 countries. I've set up a home in Dubai where I spend my days helping freelancers build successful businesses within The Real World and on the blog Calm and Collected. Within this website you will find the motivation and action steps to make your life better.

3 comments add your comment

  1. “All I can do is laugh at that old version of myself. I missed out on a lot of things simply because I was such a beta and didn’t have the balls to say what I wanted.”

    Same here, and we just started, great times are ahead, we are the leaders of tomorrow.

  2. Sadly most people will not realise that they should be ‘in it to win it’ for themselves, until it’s too late and they’re working a crappy 9 to 5 they hate.

    Awesome blog by the way.

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