Hey my friend it has been over a week since we last spoke. Let me ask you a question:
Do you ever feel as if you are pulled in every direction and can’t seem to get anything done? If so read on and let me tell you what causes it and how you can fix it…….
First let me tell you what made me write this for you.
I was getting a good bit of traffic and putting out consistent content for you guys. I watched as the comments and subscribers increased. At that point I felt on top of my craft and on top of the world. Things were going well and then I started helping other bloggers, taking on more projects, and started worrying about how I could help even more people.
This led me to stop focusing on the two most important things:
I am all for helping other bloggers, but when you are not getting equal value or if they aren’t grateful for your time then it is a waste of time. I was helping even people out of my inner-circle, that will happen no more. Call me selfish, but I will no longer go out of my way to help any other blogger that is not in my inner-circle from this point on. Most people are just a waste of time since they will not change and will not follow what you tell them.
That is the sad reality of this world. You must be true to yourself and your tribe. All of those outside of your tribe are to not be helped unless you have some type of mutual agreement or alliance.
As I grew I started getting people interested in hiring me for freelance work. At first I would say yes to every offer that I got because I came from a place of scarcity. But no more of that. I realized that by me doing that I was limiting myself by over-loading my plate with projects that did not have any long-term benefit for you or for me.
You see my friend when you start taking on more and more things you start taking your focus off of what is important and that got you to where you are in the first place. If you do A and then get B, then why in the Hell would you do A, C, and then B?
It is all about Focus. Where your Focus goes is where your life goes. If you Focus on sleeping with girls then by law you will start sleeping with girls. If you Focus on making a great post then you will most likely create a great post that will change lives. If you Focus on getting stronger then you will start getting stronger.
Something that I learned from a good friend of mine is to go into Flow. I do not mean the cliché term, “Just go with the flow man it will work out.” If you were in a river that had a major drop, what would happen if you went with the flow?
That’s right you would fall to your death. It is the same concept with life.
When I say to Flow what I am talking about is doing what you must and then letting it come to you. For example if you want to get strong here is what you need to do:
Get a meal plan that is low in carbs, high in protein, and has a good source of fat.
Start hitting the gym 3-6 times a week.
Once you have those 3 things down just Flow and let the results come to you. If you try to force things you will run yourself into the ground. I am living proof of that. You must do what is required and let the things that you desire to Flow to you. That is how you can get everything that you want. You can duplicate that method for anything in your life from money, girls, and power.
This leads me to the part of the post about how you can fix being pulled in different directions which will make your life better in many ways.
The simple solution is to say no often.
Can you help me setup this new blog?
No. Unless they are in your inner-circle or a member of your tribe.
Can you give me a ride to the mall?
No I have stuff to take care of.
As we discussed above being pulled in different directions not only causes mental confusion, but can also lead to your fall.
On your rise to the top you will be confronted with many problems from complacency, fake people, and time wasters. It is your job to decide where your time and focus goes.
You must develop a Solution Mindset and not let everyday problems distract you from what is truly important. It is not my place to tell you what is important to you. Becoming the best tennis player in the world could be important to you, but I have no interest in that.
Just like creating a blog that helps thousands of people become better than they are and reach their true potential is what I want, you could not have interest in that.
That doesn’t make you bad or lazy. It just means that it is not what you want. You see my friend we all have our own life and it is up to us to figure out what our destiny is.
I know that you are filled with self-doubt and feel like you do not know what you want. You have many questions such as:
What is my destiny?
What should I do with my life?
What do I really want?
What makes me worthy to have everything that I want?
Self-Doubt is normal and even people at the top experience it from time to time.
The difference between them and you is that they do not let it hold them back from what they want. They know that they can have their way with the world and not the other way around.
They say no to anything that does not benefit them or that will waste their time.
You need to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself what you really want. Don’t worry about what others will think because that is just your useless ego trying to defend your self-image.
You know what you truly want, but are scared to admit it. You want the money to be able to do as you please. You want the body that most people would kill for. You want the partner that other people water at the mouth for, but know that they have no chance to get because the partner knows they are with the best.
It is okay to create envy with your life. You want me to tell you why?
It will make people want to be like you. It will cause people to want to talk to you. It will allow you to be able to open more people’s eyes and add massive value.
Do not be scared of your greatness. You can be the best in the world at being you, but you must first kill your ego and Flow. There will be people who mock you and try to lower you.
They are coming from a place of scarcity and envy. Look at them and realize that their opinion is meaningless because they are not adding any value to your life and are nothing but a cockroach.
I will break down exactly what you need to do to eliminate being pulled in different directions:
Decide what you want.
Create a plan of attack.
Do what needs to be done.
Let it Flow to you.
Do not let anything distract you. Just Focus on what is important and don’t worry about anything extra.
This post might come across as being selfish and uncaring. That is because it is.
If you want to get what you want you must be selfish and not care about those who do not offer any benefit to you.
Does that mean that you need to screw others over to get what you want. No, because if you do that you will create more enemies than the stars.
That will will make it harder to get what you want. What you need to do is create an inner-circle where y’all help each other achieve goals. You need to build a tribe aka a readership.
Without your tribe you will not be able to build your empire. You must connect with like-minded people and then push out all of those people who do not serve a purpose to you.
That is why you must be selfish and uncaring my friend. Only care about your inner-circle and tribe and let all others fall. Be selfish so that you can get what you want instead of putting others ahead of yourself.
What will you change now that you know The Importance of Flow and How To Cure Being Pulled in Every Direction?
Focus on what is important and put your 100% Focus into whatever you are doing from moment to moment.