Not getting what you want hurts. It can make you feel angry. But sometimes that is all that you need to change your life.

Have you been told no?

It sucks doesn’t it. You feel as if you are entitled to getting what you want. It doesn’t matter even if your intentions were good when you asked. 

You must earn everything that you get. There are no handouts. Yes people can help you get to where you want in life, but ultimately it is up to you to get everything that you want. 

As the title implies I asked Victor something and he told me no. It hurt my feelings. I didn’t know what I had done wrong. Poor me.

Boohoo.

It wasn’t until 10 months later that I realized what great service Victor had done for me. By him telling me no he changed my life forever. Not in a bad way, actually the complete opposite.  He forced me to start taking action. 

You see friends we try to take the easy road when it comes to everything in life. We would rather have someone help us get to where we are going than actually make our own path. Little do we know that by earning our own way yields far greater rewards. The same people who tell you no will be more likely to offer help if they see that you are taking the steps to achieve whatever you are going after. 

Think for a moment. How many emails a day do you think Victor gets from people who are asking for something? 

I would guess Hundreds if not Thousands. 

With all of these people constantly asking for something I would imagine it causes him to get turned off fast when he sees an email or comment such as this:

“Victor I am looking to expand my blog. Check it out.” or “How can I make thousands of dollars from my site?”

Who do you think you are to ask someone who has earned their keep to check out your blog? Who are you to ask them how you can make money?

You ask for something valuable, but offer nothing in return. They have grinded for years to get to the point that they are at and owe you absolutely nothing. You have done nothing whatsoever to help them get to where they are. You are nothing but an entitled punk.

I’m not done.

It came as a shocker when I was denied not once but twice by Victor. The first time I asked what basically added up to me being able to get mentored from him. I thought to myself, “I’m loyal and willing to learn so he has no reason to say no”. While I am loyal and willing to learn that does not entitle me to anything. Who was I to go to Victor and ask to be personally mentored by him?

I was a nobody. 

I still remember his words that forever changed my life:

“You ask everything from me, but offer nothing in return”

I didn’t get it. What had I said wrong? I just wanted to be the best so it would make sense to get mentored by the best. Right? When he denied me it filled me with anger.

For those who don’t know me if I get told no it makes me determined to get what I want. After reading his email instead of just giving up right there I did something else. I knew that I had what it took to be successful. 

I used that anger as fuel. It was as if the God of War himself had taken over my mind and body. I began working out, learning, and developing myself. If I was to become great I would have to be in shape, be knowledgeable, and develop myself in every aspect. 

I completely turned my life upside down. I got rid of my old friends, TV, and uncluttered my life. Starting that day I began taking myself seriously. I realized that I would have to take the crown. No man would be able to give it to me. 

If it weren’t for Victor telling me no there is no telling where I would be right now. Possibly I would be in Saigon. Maybe WOTO would have thousands of views a day. Who knows?

Honestly I am grateful that he told me no. I would not have grown as much as I have. In the time since he told me no I have:

  • Increased my bench to 220 lbs
  • Lost 25 lbs, but still would like to lose another 10
  • Met many great people such as Conner and Andrew
  • Taken control of my life
  • Seen great things
  • Learned a lot about myself
  • Taken this blog to level’s I didn’t think were possible
  • Started several ventures that have made me money which I will be able to live off of once the sales come rolling in

You see my friend even if you are told no there is no telling what good things will come from it. I have increased in value. I can now say that I am my own man. It is quite an empowering feeling when you take a no and use it to fuel you. There is nothing that can stand in your way if you are determined to get what you want.

Don’t get me wrong there have been times where I have been stuck. I felt as if I was trapped with a wall against my back. Nowhere to go. But guess what?

I survived. 

Even better than that I transcended it. I have come to the conclusion that there is nothing that can stand in my way. I can have whatever I want if I put my mind to it. You can as well which is why I write the articles that I do. I want to show you that a nobody like me can begin creating the lifestyle that he wants by simply putting his mind to the task. I am not where I want to be yet, but you can bet I will get there.

I want you to do the following starting right now:

  • Take yourself seriously
  • Start hitting the gym at least 3 times a week
  • Realize that you can have whatever you want if you earn it
  • Begin working on your craft whether that be blogging, making YouTube video’s, or Football 
  • Unclutter your life

Part of being an Olympian is being able to take a hit and keep going. Nothing can stop you unless you let it. Go out there and start living how you want to without worrying about what anyone says.

Even though I have got to the point where I am, I still would like to be able to meet Victor one of these days. Maybe even be able to do business together. But one thing is different- I have learned that you must earn everything whether that be status, money, or an opportunity to change your life.

Until next time Go and Dominate.

Your friend,

Dylan Madden

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12 comments add yours

  1. I used to have entitlement issues myself. It led to me ruining some pretty good opportunities in my life by simply not being willing to put in the work or deal with difficulties. It’s always best to be diligently putting in work, no matter what else you do with your life.

    Did you try responding with “my eternal gratitude”? lol

  2. Love it, Sergie. Glad to have met you too.

    No is such a powerful word. Indeed, it is a sign of Victor’s respect for his and your own time that he told you no with such clarity. And it is a great lesson too, as you now know that you must say “no” to a great deal in your own life in order to move forward.

    • Yes it is. It took me a while to start saying no to people. Years ago I was one of the many yes men our society has. I can attest to the fact that by saying no allows you to move forward in life.

      Your friend,
      Sergie

  3. “It is quite an empowering feeling when you take a no and use it to fuel you.” – I couldn’t agree more.

    It’s amazing what being rejected can do for you, as long as you know how to take it. And you clearly do. Kudos for choosing to be a self-made man, my friend. I respect that.

    Cheers,

    Tara

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