Introverts: You’re Not Shy, You’re Just Trapped In Your Head
You’re not “introverted.” You’re not “shy.” You’re not “awkward.”
You’re just stuck in your own head.
You’re overanalyzing every word you say.
Every move you make.
Like the whole world is watching you fidget.
Newsflash: they’re not.
People Aren’t Watching You. They’re Watching Themselves.
You think the waiter noticed you stuttered when ordering? Or that guy across the room cares you adjusted your collar twice?
He doesn’t.
She doesn’t.
Nobody’s thinking about you because they’re too busy overthinking themselves.
And once you actually accept that?
You unlock a new level of freedom.
No more imaginary audience in your head.
Just pure, unfiltered YOU.
Stop Being So Hard On Yourself
You’re acting like every word you say is being scored by a panel of judges.
Truth is unless you’re sitting at a table with highly competitive people who read body language like security professionals and high impact business people, nobody even notices your “mistakes.”
Said something weird?
Already forgotten.
Felt awkward? Only you noticed.
So why keep beating yourself up over nothing?
Get Outta Your Head and Into The Room
Once you free yourself from this mental cage, everything changes.
You’ll start owning rooms. You’ll speak and people will listen.
Not because you’re loud or flashy—but because you’re present.
Confident. Unapologetically yourself.
Here’s your first step:
Realize nobody’s watching.
They’re too busy battling their own thoughts.
Now move accordingly.
Always the best,
Dylan Madden
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