This is my story. My hope is that you use this article to pull yourself up. If you are young or older, you can live the life that you want.
It has been over a year since I moved out of my parents house.
Life is great as I have complete control over what I do.
If I want to go out at 1 AM then, I do it.
But it wasn’t always that way.
I grew up in a modern American household.
My Dad would always be working.
It was at that time that I decided that I didn’t want to work for someone else.
He made multiple 6 Figures, but the amount of stress he had to put up with wasn’t worth it.
As for my Step-Mom she cared about me but never really could show love to me.
I had dreams in those days of becoming a Businessman.
Running my owns Empire while racking in loads of cash.
But as with most Parents they never agreed with what I said I wanted.
There response was, “Dylan you need to go to college and then get a good job.”
Young And Frustrated
I was 19 at the time and I had been trying to figure out the “secret” to life since I was 15.
To say the least I was frustrated with life.
I thought that if I could just find that “secret combination” to life that I could finally be who I wanted.
At the time I was in a bad relationship with a girl that made me miserable.
Her parents were telling me the same thing as my parents were.
Her Mom told me she needed to speak to me so she said she would like to take me out to dinner.
I agreed and so off we went.
Over dinner our conversation went something like this:
Her: Dylan I brought you here because I am worried about you.
Her: You are a very smart and handsome guy. I know you have a vision for your life, but that is only because you are young.
You need to get real and man up. I want you to go to College or join the military.
Me: But I don’t want to go to college and I am not going to join the military. I already have a few ideas that I can act on.
If I work hard then I will be able to make a living from it eventually.
Her: Dylan don’t do this to yourself. Only losers follow the path that you are going down. If you want to be a part of this family, you need to get a real job and do what normal people do.
Me: (Half Sarcastic) But I’m not normal. I don’t want to be normal. Normal is going to parties and clubs. Normal is going to a job you hate.
There is no job in the world that I want to do. I see people that make money from their own home.
If they can do it then so can I.
Her: Dylan this conversation is over. Just don’t say I didn’t warn you. Only losers do what you are doing. You need College to be successful.
Maybe They Are Right
In my young mind I started thinking that everyone around me was right.
Maybe I am just a loser.
Maybe only certain people can make money on their own.
If it weren’t for two people in my life I would have completely given up.
These two people showed complete belief in me.
When I say complete belief, I really mean it.
Those two people were my Mom and my Brother (by Spirit).
My Mom from the time I was born to this day has believed in me.
I am her light and that is special too me.
While I do not show her as much attention as she deserves I still try to call her daily.
It has been around 8 months since I have seen her.
(Need To Plan A Trip)
My brother is someone who has been with me since Middle School.
We are the type of people that could not see each other for 10 years and then bump into each other and leave off where we were.
That is something special.
This is the Man who has been involved with me in every venture I’ve started.
In the early days of Calm and Collected he would tell me, “Dylan you have a message people need to hear. Don’t
worry about the money because it will come.”
Here is a picture of us in the office:
(More On These Two People Later)
As I was saying I was seriously doubting myself in those days.
Being 19 with a head full of ideas, but no guidance is a terrible feeling.
So upon graduating I decided to give College a try.
Following Their Advice
This was a dark time for me.
I was frustrated and alone.
I knew what I wanted, but it didn’t seem to work.
I realized that I had to depend on my own self to get what I wanted.
The only problem is I didn’t see how I would be able to achieve any of my dreams.
I started attending College.
My gut told me it was a waste of time.
But what else would I do?
After being in College for less than 3 months I knew it wasn’t the place for me.
I wasn’t going there for any reason other than I felt like I had too.
To make matters worse my business teacher had never even ran a business.
I Dived Deeper Into The Void
I stopped going to class.
I would wake up, take my siblings off to school, and then come home.
I started smoking pot.
Before I knew it my days looked like this:
- Wake Up
- Take Siblings To School
- Go To Work
I started getting deeper into the Void.
My life sucked at that point.
From an early age I had always been an avid reader of Personal Development.
But at this time I completely threw everything I had learned out.
Half way through my first year of College I was beaten and depressed.
Until one day as I was laying on the floor of my room and a thought came to me.
“Why in the heck am I doing any of this?”
I know what I want and I had a basic understanding of Personal Development.
Like A Phoenix I Rose
I grabbed a red Binder I saw on my desk.
I broke it into multiple parts:
- Business Ideas
- Personal Development
I filled the entire binder with everything in my head.
When I was at the bookstore I picked up a book that caught my attention.
The Title was, “Think And Grow Rich”.
As I read the book things started making more and more sense.
It absolutely blew my mind with how powerful the mind was.
I filled an entire composition notebook with notes.
The only business thing I was doing at the time was Multi Level Marketing.
I started applying myself to it and grew my team to over 200 people.
I was lucky enough to recruit a Real-Estate agent who knew a lot of people.
I started making a little money from it.
But it still didn’t feel like my thing.
I continued this for several years and even switched to another company.
I still didn’t find it to fit my desires.
My vision was of owning my own company, not being just a salesman for someone elses company.
Fate Brought Me To My First Several Role Models
At this point I had an idea for a company called Olympian Lifestyle.
I wanted it to cover all areas of life.
If you had questions about making money, being healthy, or gaining confidence Olympian Lifestyle was going to be the answer.
I still didn’t know exactly how to do what I wanted so I continued reading books and online sources.
I remember the day like it was yesterday.
I typed into Google, “Top 100 Personal Development Site.”
Once it loaded I clicked the first link.
I scrolled through the sites and something caught my eyes.
I clicked over to it and that was the day I found Victor Pride at Bold And Determined.
But I ended up only reading an article and then closed the browser.
A month or so later I once again went to Google.
I searched, “The No BS Guide To Making Money Online.”
Of course it led me to B&D.
I started reading and my eyes were opened to a world that I didn’t know existed.
In Victor Pride I found a Mentor like feeling.
I was inspired by what he had done and wanted to be like him in the sense of being my own Man and living a great life.
From there I found out about Mike Cernovich from Danger And Play.
Mike taught me about Mindset and how to Dominate in my day to day life.
Something that I really like about Mike is our stories are similar in regards to having to pull ourselves up.
He wasn’t given anything, yet now he has everything that he wants.
After that I discovered Chris from Good Looking Loser.
In Chris I found an older brother who had experienced a lot.
Something that I really admire about Chris is that he has achieved so much yet he is VERY down to Earth.
These three Men are the only Role-Models that I have had in life.
They are the Men who showed me how to be a Man.
They showed me how to make money online.
They showed me how to control my thoughts.
The Birth Of Calm and Collected
After learning from those three Men I decided now was my time to become who I wanted.
I didn’t care what I had to do.
I didn’t care how long it took.
But I decided that I was going to take the life that I wanted.
No more excuses.
I moved out of my Parents house and decided to cut off most communication with them.
I had long since been out of my terrible relationship with my ex.
I was determined to live the life I wanted.
By this time I had found a new relationship with a Good girl.
Without hesitation I started my blog.
I used BADNET to start Calm and Collected.
(Just a side note BADNET is a great way to get your blog started within 24 hours)
My mission for Calm and Collected was to show people that they could be who they wanted.
That no matter where you were that you could change your circumstances.
I wanted Calm and Collected to be able to show all of the lost people how to go from average to Olympian.
I knew that to get any readers I would have to force myself to improve.
It is one thing to have a head of ideas, but it is another to live them.
The Evolution Of Dylan Madden
I wrote under a pen name in the beginning of Calm and Collected.
But I started feeling as if it was holding me back.
I decided to expose myself to you so that you could see who I was.
I knew that some hate would come, but that is would be ultimately positive.
For you to be able to fully grasp my message you needed to see me.
I released my picture and then later my full name.
Sergie was my mask, but then I decided to reveal who I really was.
Since starting Calm and Collected my life has improved 110%.
I get great emails from you guys.
I have a sense of purpose.
My life is a constant adventure and I have a lot of fulfillment.
Not only have I grown a lot, but you have as well.
That is the true beauty of running Calm and Collected.
I get connected with people who are on the other side of the world.
But even with all of you who love Calm and Collected, there are still haters lurking around.
Advice To My Haters
I have noticed a common theme in regards to my haters.
They seem to either be very ignorant, retarded, or a 10 year old kid.
For someone to come on to a video or post of mine and leave a hateful comment shows that they have nothing better going on in their life.
It seriously makes me laugh when I see that someone has left something negative.
But I am a good guy so I want to help my haters.
My hope is that you can follow this advice and finally evolve into someone who has a brain.
To My Haters:
- Start doing something meaningful with your life
- Have sex with a woman
- Make some money
- Get some friends
- And if that doesn’t work then you really need to Read my site
You see haters are people who have nothing going on in their lives.
So instead of changing their circumstances they go on to sites where they see people enjoying life and leave hateful comments.
They aren’t really trying to hurt that person.
All a hater wants is to get validation for their existence from their target.
Haters are really fans who just won’t admit it.
Here are some posts I’ve done that will change your life:
Now The Story Continues With You
I am just a normal person who has bigger ambitions than following what society wants me too.
You can live the life that you want.
You can have the girl that you want.
You can be financially independent.
I have said it a thousand times, all you need to do is Take Action.
You are the creator of your own story.
Stop making other people the main character and live your life.
Until Next Time Go And Dominate.
Articles That I Mentioned In This Post:
The No BS Guide To Making Money Online By Victor Pride
How To Become A More Dominant Man By Mike Cernovich
30 Things I Wish I Knew In My 20’s By Chris (READ ALL THE PARTS AS THIS IS PART 3)